Self Discipline

Most martial arts schools that teach children usually offer a word of the month or concept or question of the month.

A few months ago, our question of the month was, “What is discipline?” I'm surprised when the kids in our class give us only one definition for discipline, that it means punishment.

While this is a valid definition, we need to teach a more positive outlook on discipline. In the most basic sense, discipline means self-control, which should be applied in two ways.

First you need the strength to keep from doing the things that get you into trouble, such as dishonesty or disruptive behavior. Second is the strength you have, inside, to do what you know is right. The strength to put homework before play, to get along with siblings as well as other family members, to keep your room clean, to eat the right foods, to get the right amount of sleep, and to live up to your responsibilities to the family and household. 

Discipline can be imposed by authority figures (parents, teachers, etc). And this is, generally, a necessary and desirable first step, as discipline is often a matter of repetition in order to develop consistency.

However, the discipline we need to instill in our young people is self-discipline. It is one trait which when mastered makes life easier, less stressful, and more fun.

As adults, the consequences of an undisciplined life can be disastrous. With growing responsibility thrust upon them, an unfocused vision of life means that some may flounder for years just trying to get their act together.

Often, our martial arts school is the first to convey to young people such concepts as self-discipline, focus, respect and responsibility in very concrete ways, in ways children can relate and understand.  That is what is great about most martial arts programs.

By introducing the concepts of self-discipline, responsibility and focus at an early age, plus encouraging children to practice, explore and take these concepts outside of the kwoon (school), you help make their lives better. It's not about (the approval of) their parents, teachers, or friends, although it is a great fringe benefit when everyone is proud of you, but it's more about them (their own self satisfaction). Self-discipline is a trait or habit that yields a very satisfying and rewarding life.

Usually your students stay with you at least a couple of years if not more. We as educators (that is what we are as martial arts instructors) can make a positive impact and continually reinforce behavior that makes the child stronger in will and character. If you can get just a few of them to start thinking about it now even at the age of six, seven, or eight, they will be much better off later.